I think that a huge part of having confidence is not caring what other people think about you, your life choices, or your lifestyle. I don’t mean you should be ignorant, or not listen to others. But understanding that, at the end of the day, your life and your decisions are between you and God, and you aren’t obligated to listen to other people’s opinions.
This is a lesson I’ve been learning lately. When it comes to you, your personality, the way you dress, the career path you choose, the way you eat (the list goes on), there’s always going to be someone who has an opinion about what you’re doing, and sometimes it’s the opposite of helpful. They might mean for it to be helpful, and they might have perfectly good intentions. But sometimes those opinions can deter you from what God has planned for you.
Like all of you, I’ve faced criticism and demanding words about the lifestyle I live. I’ve had people tell me I should go to college. I’ve had people say I’m weird for wearing so much leopard print(hahaha)! I’ve had people say I’m fake, or that I act too old for my age. Or that I eat too much sugar! Or that being a writer won’t make any money so I should look into other options. No matter how small and ridiculous the comment can be, if we let it get to our heads, it seriously can destroy our confidence.
I don’t know about you, but I want God’s plan for my life. Not so and so from down the street’s plan. I want to run, full speed ahead, toward the things God has planned for me, without letting negative people stand in my way and make me feel insecure about going after the things I want and the things I feel called to.
With Valentine’s Day being today, some of y’all might not be feeling all the love for this holiday! Some people dread it, and honestly, I am often one of those people! Like yeah, it’s fun getting chocolate. But I feel as though sometimes, in our society, we get judged based on our relationship status. Like if you have a boyfriend, your value suddenly goes up. Or if you get dumped, you’re all of a sudden alone and not seen as valuable.
I think that’s why some of us get uncomfortable when Valentine’s Day comes around. But why can’t someone be single and fully enjoy it? Why do we feel bad for ourselves, or judged, or alone? Life is about so much more than being in a dating relationship! So if that’s you today, and you’re spending the holiday without a SO, please don’t feel sorry for yourself, and PLEASE don’t let anyone else’s comments make you feel sad, judged, or alone.
Like I said earlier, you have more important things to do with your life – like run toward the amazing plans God has for you.
Love,
Gabriella
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Gabby you are so right! You have a lot of wisdom for a young person. Do you and do what God has called you to do and you can’t go wrong! For so many years I tried to be what and who everyone else wanted me to be and I didn’t know who I was or what I liked. I admire that you know this already. Not everyone is going to like you or what and how you are doing things and that’s ok, they don’t have to answer to God, you do! You are a very special beautiful young lady and God has great plans for you♥️ Blessings, Shirley
Thank you so much, Shirley! You’re so right! Glad you agree (: